Sometime after the birth it is there, the moment when both of you think about sex again. But what do you have to consider during the first sex after the birth? We clarify the most important questions.
The birth of a baby is a decisive experience in the life of all parents: changed daily routines, new priorities, sleepless nights… The previous life is completely turned upside down, and the addition of the family means a great change for the relationship too. Especially the first days and weeks with a baby are a mess of emotions. Between the crying of babies and leaden tiredness, women in particular often struggle with their new role as mothers. Thoughts of sex are completely ignored for many new moms. This can sometimes be stressful for the partner, but it is completely natural. He too has to find his way into his new role as a father, also in relation to his partner.
The birth of a baby is a decisive experience in the life of all parents: changed daily routine, new priorities, sleepless nights, … The previous life is completely turned upside down, and the addition of the family means a big change for the relationship.
Especially the first days and weeks with a baby are a mess of emotions. Above all, she struggles between the crying of babies and leaden tiredness woman often with her new role as mom . Thoughts of sex are completely ignored for many new moms. This can sometimes be stressful for the partner, but it is completely natural . He too has to find his way into his new role as a father, also in relation to his partner.
Nevertheless, at some point – luckily – the moment will come for the first sex after the birth. And with him a lot of questions: When can I have sex after pregnancy? How can or must I use contraception? Will i be in pain? And what exactly in the body through pregnancy and birth changed everything?
When is sex okay after giving birth?
Most gynecologists advise a new mom to wait four to six weeks after pregnancy before having sex. The reason for this is that when the placenta becomes detached, a wound remains in the woman’s uterus, which first has to heal. During the healing process, i.e. in the period of the weekly flow, the risk of infection is very high. If the weekly flow has stopped, the wound has also healed.Most gynecologists advise a new mom to wait four to six weeks after pregnancy before having sex. The reason for this is that with the detachment of the placenta, a wound is created in the uterus woman remains, which now has to heal first. During the healing process, i.e. in the period of the weekly flow, the risk of infection is very high. If the weekly flow has stopped, the wound has also healed.
Doctors strongly recommend the four to six weeks. If couples can’t keep their hands off each other at all, sex after the birth should definitely take place with a condom to prevent infection. The new mother may also be in pain at the beginning, especially if a perineal incision was made during the birth.
Until the uterus has receded after a few weeks, it can happen that the penis bumps against it during intercourse, which is also uncomfortable for the woman. Therefore, one thing is particularly important: Having sex after giving birth should be waited until both really feel pleasure.
Especially for women, the first time is strange. The memories of the birth are too fresh, the physical changes too strong and then the fact that suddenly you are no longer just a wife and lover, but also a mother. That can inhibit the desire a little.
Sex after childbirth: what has changed in the body?
Let’s look the truth in the face: During a natural birth, a woman presses the baby through her vagina – so it should be clear that it is wider shortly afterwards. But don’t worry, she contracts again so that sex after the birth is not so different from before. Special postnatal gymnastics, in which the pelvic floor muscles are trained, helps. Courses are offered in hospitals, for example.
Estrogen levels are a little low in women who are breastfeeding their child. As a result, the vagina does not get wet as quickly and sex after the birth can be painful. Here, either an extended foreplay or a lubricant can help.
However, women have the biggest problem with their own bodies. After pregnancy, the stomach hangs limply, the pounds don’t go away as quickly as they’d like, and they are afraid that they “don’t look good” below. This fear is unfounded, after only two or three weeks everything “down” has receded and looks like it did before the birth. As for your own doubts about the body: Please just suppress them. Men don’t mind the little belly, they don’t even notice it. Trust your partner!
This is how sex is fun again after giving birth
The first sex after giving birth is weird – but it’s also a little new beginning. Because everything that you have tried and tried together beforehand is not extinguished with the birth of the child, but is somehow set to zero.
For many couples, the first sex after the birth is exciting, thrilling and a bit like the very first time. The partners feel insecure and want to do everything right. Above all, he doesn’t want to hurt his partner under any circumstances …
That is exactly why couples should take it easy. Cuddle a little, feel the closeness of the other without it having to become more. The next step then follows automatically after a while.
Even with sex after the birth: contraception is a must
There are persistent rumors that you cannot get pregnant for up to a year after giving birth and while breastfeeding. All nonsense! You can actually get pregnant again immediately, so contraception is essential.
In addition to the classic condom, there is a mini pill made from progestins for women who are breastfeeding. The classic pill with estrogen, on the other hand, can reduce milk production.
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