From simple romances to the hottest scenarios, many of us have erotic dreams, dreams of sex, dreams of love. But much less to admit their existence. And yet, they say a lot about us and especially our sexuality! Immerse yourself in these dreamlike, meaningful thoughts and discover the meaning of erotic dreams.
The early morning dreams of sex or love
Sleep is broken down into cycles of approximately 90 minutes, each comprising a phase of slow and REM sleep. It is during the last that dreams appear.
Erotic daydreams are an integral part of our intimacy, from an early age and especially in adolescence. Puberty, conducive to the most naughty dreams, is also closely related to the first emotions of love. It is then a learning of sexuality that will continue throughout adulthood.
Where do these erotic dreams come from?
As for the origin of erotic dreams, psychoanalysts are categorical: erotic dreams do not happen by chance and are the fruit of desires experienced during the day.
For example, if a man has made you feel good during the day, you may well dream of hot hugs with him while you sleep.
What are these erotic dreams for?
Making love in a dream shows that the dreamer’s imagination is stimulated or, as Freud analyzed, that she is capable of constituting a desired scenario or of satisfying unconscious impulses. True object of liberation, the erotic dream therefore allows the individual to fulfill escaped sexual needs and therefore, to better develop in daily life.
Far from moral pressures, the dreamer can then deploy her libidinal energy and express all her sexual desires, even the most eccentric. Do you dream of being a man-eater when you make it a point to stay true to reality? Or do you have sex with your colleague on the photocopier when he intimidates you a lot? Never mind, in dreams, taboos, restraint and other blockages have no place!
Better yet, dreams of sex and love make it possible to detect certain blockages, even to release them. Thus, a young woman who is a little frigid but who nevertheless constantly dreams of sexual relations with multiple orgasms could thus realize her discomfort and decide to consult a specialist to overcome her problem.
Should we be afraid of it?
These dreams are not the sign of troubles but on the contrary of good mental health. Your dreams, if they are the translation of repressed carnal or sexual desires and for which you are not responsible, should in no way be confused with reality. There is therefore no need to feel guilty and imagine yourself suffering from any form of perversity.
How to interpret erotic dreams?
It can be good, even beneficial, to question the meaning of erotic dreams in order to improve everyday life, especially love life and sexuality.
First, psychoanalysts consider that the erotic dream takes two forms: one which involves a sexual act with penetration , which can then signify a lack in reality, with a libido which is not fully fulfilled; and the one who remains carnal (kisses, caresses), simply meaning general well-being.
For women as for men, certain universal symbols impose themselves on us.
- In the case of romantic encounters, the scenarios are quite similar from one person to another. To this is then added each person’s experience, their situation as a couple and their relationship to society more generally. It is therefore these additional details that allow precise interpretation and can make all the difference. Other symbols are universal, such as fire, earth, water, day, night, trains…
On the analysis side, dreams calling for a romantic encounter do not reflect the style of the person with whom the dreamer would like to materialize but rather a hidden face of herself. Thus, a person who dreams of his new boss with a strong character and a hectic existence does not necessarily refer to a desire for him, but to what he would like to be and his life, which may seem too monotonous to him, to his taste.
- Regarding objects or places : If a person dreams that they are having sex on a train with their partner, it could mean that their relationship is on the right track. If the train goes off the rails, the couple may be in peril .
Or if you dream of having sex by the fireside , it may mean that your relationship is passionate and fulfilling … but by no means passive and boring. Your libido is full of energy.
Do you dream of torrid frolics on the water , aboard a boat for example? Congratulations, this means that you are in perfect sexual harmony with your companion.
You dream of sex where you have hair still attached: this can mean that your sexuality is scaring you. If, on the contrary, your hair is free, it goes hand in hand with your sexuality, that is to say without any restraint!
- Make love in the presence of animals: Cats are symbols of tenderness, gentleness but also passion and independence when they take out their claws … Like what you would like to feel with your man if you are starting a relationship.
Dogs, on the other hand, talk about your relationship with the couple. If a dog flaps its tail and seems happy, that goes hand in hand with the loyalty that exists within the couple. On the other hand, if the latter shows the fangs, it is because the betrayal is perhaps present in one of the two partners …
- And finally, nudity , in a situation where you have to be dressed rather means that you have a certain desire for exhibitionism or that you want to free your sexuality more.
In any case, a dream of sex is quite natural and necessary for everyone’s psychic development. It also means all the strength of the libido and the desire to enjoy the pleasures of life. Of course, if some erotic dreams take too disturbing forms or disturb your thoughts during the day, it is better to talk to a therapist to get rid of them.
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